relationship is a partnership between two equals. I am a resource
for you to use to your best advantage. I provide the structure and
ongoing support needed to stay in action. I celebrate your successes
and provide compassion and faith during difficult times.
You are responsible
for your own life, your choices, and whether or not you take action
following coaching sessions. You are also encouraged to coach me
on how to best coach you.
I believe in you. I respect you, want the best for you, and
trust you as the expert regarding your life.
I believe you are smart and capable. I support you
in articulating and working towards your ideal life and maximizing
your potential. In hiring me, you are probably ready to do your
best and to live in integrity with your values. When you are not,
I will ask you to do so. If you can not, I will understand. You
will be heard and loved. Together we will discover a next step forward.
I ask provocative questions. I trust you have your
own answers. I create the opportunity for you to hear them. I am
trained to help you reveal your own wisdom with as much ease as
I make direct requests. At times I will make a direct
request based on what you have shared (e.g. "Will you accomplish
X by the end of the week?"). You may accept the request, propose
your own request of yourself, or decline. There is no "wrong" response.
I give observations, feedback, and, when appropriate,
make a suggestion or give information. I will do so as unconditional
constructive comments and only with your permission. When I am not
sure I will say so. I will be authentic and straightforward. Your
own judgment determines how you use any information or viewpoints
I am straightforward.
We work together to recognize and articulate the truth. I will question
what I sense or observe, such as a change in your tone of voice
or language that implies a block, or even a hunch about the situation.
Often, this opens a new door to clarity or resolution, allowing
you to move forward without resistance and fear. I will invite you
to consider possibilities or different perspectives, but never push
or make you wrong..
We create action plans. I usually ask that you come
up with two or three goals, actions to take, or
breakthroughs to have between one call and the next. If it is too
much, say so. If you want more, just ask.